I can't understand why people are so offended by the thought that their partner masturbates. They take it as an affront against their own sexual prowess. As if they are not pleasing their partner appropriately.
It's got nothing to do with that. The reality is, masturbation can be an expression of many things. It is a good stress release and this can be physicologically proven. The endorphins an orgasm releases, whether alone or with someone, helps to relax the person. It can be used as a tool (by poeple who are of this belief) on the path to spiritual enlightenment and self discovery. You can use it to get in touch with yourself, and find out what really turns you on, and what doesn't. Whacking off isn't just about whacking off, you know.
And of course sex toys come into the frame as well. Or otherwise known as "marital aids", to those who wish to hide their experimentation under a flimsy shroud of what they consdier to be "decency".
I have found that men in particular are afraid of these harmless battery operated tools. Men who have garages full of hardware that they never use. Men who whine about their women not being adventurous enough in the bedroom (or other rooms as the case may be). Suggest to him that you want to spice things up a little, and he pants like a dog. Pull out a great big vibrating dildo, and his manhood shrinks in fear; all lust for excitement replaced by a faceless tugging in the pit of his stomach that somehow he hasn't been good enough.
So ladies, what to do? We know that we're secure. If he pulled out a vibrating butt-plug we wouldn't automatically think that we weren't doing a good job and he had decided that men were really the way to go. Of course not! We need a solution to this fear. And that solution is control.
"I want you to do naughty things to me," whispered coarsely in his ear. Let him tie you up. Let him be empowered by the experience. make it sound as if the vibrator isn't anywhere near as good as he is. Tell him to torment you with it before he allows you to have him inside you. Make it a game where he is the inevitable conquerer over this terrifying 7-inch long toy.
And soon enough, he won't feel quite so bad when he find out you've been doing this alone at home while he is working...